Today I am talking about the use of discipline to let your ex go and not chasing after her if she breaks up with you.

It goes against our nature and what we are taught and exposed to in everyday life, but when you’re not disciplined and spend your time trying to win back your ex by chasing her, you’re going to end up worse off mentally and emotionally than you were when she broke up with you. 

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Breakups make you feel horrible and confused. You’re not sure what to do. Asking friends and family for help, getting different advice, really struggling emotionally.. 

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Trying To Be A Repairman 

 Most guys go into Bob-the-Builder mode and try to find whatever the leak is and solve the problem to prove to her that she should be with you. 

That is the opposite of what you should be doing if you’re trying to get your ex back. It is counterintuitive, because naturally as men we are problem solvers, but the only problem you are solving is giving her a much easier choice to not be with you because you keep pushing her away. 

Think economically, her demand for you has dropped,  your value in her eyes has dropped.

Do you really think that backing up more deliveries of your attention to her and trying to convince her is going to shoot her demand up?

Almost ALWAYS it will become less.

STOP! Don’t Do Anything

You need to shift right into No Contact. You need to raise your value by becoming scarce. In all honestly, it’s raising your value to yourself too. 

If she is putting your time and presence at a value of zero to her, you need to take pride in yourself and value yourself at 100%. And in doing that, you are taking away 100% of the time and attention you give to her. 

There is no guarantee in life, but at LEAST taking this course of action may generate fear in her where she takes a second thought and wonders if she maybe made a mistake.

She KNOWS she didn’t make a mistake if she broke up with you and you’re still chasing her. That is just a very firm validation to her at that point. 

You’re standing there knocking on the metaphorical door, or I hope not but maybe even her actual door, non-stop, “hey, another chance” “ hey.. Another chance?”. She has no fear of losing you at all at that point.

Make yourself scarce and she will think about you, and in a lot of circumstances, chase you.