Today’s advice relates to going into No Contact if your girlfriend unilaterally breaks up with you and you still want to be with her.

 When your girlfriend breaks up with you and it’s a unilateral decision on her part, your best course of action is to clearly communicate that you don’t agree with ending the relationship, and go into no contact. If she tries to suggest staying friends, you don’t accept any friendzone and say you're only interested in her romantically and you go into no contact.

This is counterintuitive to the most common responses by 95% of guys, and I was guilty of it many times, where your problem solving mind kicks in and you try to start saying things thinking you need to do something to basically change her decision right back, but at that point it’s too late. 

You are only causing more harm by trying to reason with her because she is acting on her feelings that have been driven to this point. And please DO NOT EVER beg or start to get upset and cry in front of her trying to plead with her to change her mind. This is the complete opposite of masculine and she is going to be disgusted by that behavior, and quite frankly, I wouldn’t blame her if she never wanted to see you again after that. That is unacceptable behavior from a man. 

Is No Contact Best?

There is a 99% chance this isn’t a snap decision that she’s made, because most likely you’ve done enough wrong along in your relationship to lower her attraction and push her away, so you’re not gonna be able to say anything right then and there that is gonna change that.

It doesn’t matter how great you were for the first 75% of the relationship, at that current time her feelings for you have changed, so trying to rationalize her back to you will not work.

Most likely you either started to become very insecure or needy in the relationship, or got a little complacent and stopped dating her.  Like with most, life gets in the way and you don’t take the time as much anymore to listen to her and hear her out, so piece by piece her attraction lowers because you’re not taking the time to understand her, and her attraction gets to the point where it’s gone and she hit the break-up point.

No contact is the best course of action to even have a chance to get your ex back, if that is what you want. It is a necessary action because she needs her space to get clarity and you need to figure out where you went wrong and improve. 

Criticisms of No Contact

I’ve seen some advice on this platform that criticizes no contact and mentions 

that you should clearly communicate to the girl if you are going to go no contact and tell her for how long, so in 30 days or 60 days, or whatever set number, then when that time limit hits you will reach out to basically take her temperature. That is asinine to do, because you essentially give space but still are seeking her validation, like  “okay I was good for 30 days, can I please come back now?”. It’s a ridiculous notion.

I have also seen others say No Contact is toxic and a manipulation tactic but I think that’s a disingenuous way of framing it and they are misleading their viewers as to the point of no contact. If you’re using it with the intent of strictly harming the other person, yeah sure you can frame it in that sense, but that’s NOT what the true purpose of no contact is.

True Purpose of No Contact

The purpose of No Contact is to take that time away and start to heal yourself, understand where you went wrong, and take personal development seriously by focusing on yourself. Like I said, you’re not going to say anything to convince her to genuinely change her decision there, so taking this time allows you to create a much higher value proposition of yourself, while also not wasting your time trying to convince somebody who made it clear that they don’t want to spend time with you. Time is your most precious asset, and it’s finite, spend it leveling up and creating increased valuing within yourself, and you also spend it with people who appreciate you. 

The ADDED bonus to No Contact, is that she may start to miss you or think about you because you have taken away your presence, which is the masculine thing to do, while concurrently respecting her wishes for space. This bears repeating always, ATTRACTION GROWS IN SPACE. This is the best shot you have to get your ex back, if that is what you want, and by doing the things I mentioned above to level yourself up. Spend your time watching my channel and learning about women, so that you better understand what women need from you and the appropriate actions to take to build her attraction and keep it there. 

If you do this, you’re going to have great success with the next woman in your life, or if your ex comes back, she will see a changed man who is more masculine and more attractive in her eyes. You may also get to a point during your healing and growth process where you start to understand the value you have, and even if she comes back, you may not even want her back because you have leveled up so much you are dating better quality women who appreciate the time you give them.

Conclusion

The point is, No Contact is a necessary step to take when your girlfriend, wife, whomever, has left you unilaterally and you do not agree. It has a multitude of benefits to both you, and her as well, and ultimately if she does come back it will make your relationship stronger if that is something you pursue again. 

Make sure you understand that it can only be stronger because you put in the work to know where you went wrong, to understand women better, and to respect yourself and be the leader and the masculine presence who doesn’t put up with being treated in a way you don’t want.