What is the most important thing you have to get the respect of women? Is it money? Is it power?

If you want success with quality women that you are romantically interested in, you need to have their respect. 

Woman can’t love a guy she doesn’t respect. 

Stay tuned for the rest of this video, because I am going to tell the most important quality you NEED in order to earn women's respect so you can find the woman of your dreams and live a happy life.  

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Money

There are a lot of guys who think that it is always about money.

They see hot women with rich guys and think money… money money money. This is extremely prevalent in the red pill community, where they just believe women are all practicing hypergamy and will leave you for somebody better looking, richer, or whatever else excuse they use.

The red pill community is very good at making everything that happens to them everybody else's fault, then just spinning their wheels in resentment. 

 Are there women out there like this? Yes of course. Lots of time they are gold diggers and their relationships are completely transactional. 

Do they respect their man? Probably not.

These are generally not the type of women that guys I coach are looking for. If that’s your thing, go throw money on them. I am sure they will be happy to see you, until it runs out.   

There is also no denying that there are plenty of good looking and high quality women who are with “regular” guys.

And when we see a regular looking guy with an attractive and high quality character woman, what is the first thing society always says?

Oh man, he must be loaded.

It’s the default setting on everyone’s brain. And in plenty of cases, it’s just simply not true. 

The Quality You Need 

The number one quality you must have to earn the respect of high quality women:

 Self Respect.

 You have to respect yourself.

Now, maybe you hear that and think I tricked you. And you’re going to tell me that it’s obvious.

 But, is it obvious though?

Based on all the coaching I do, the emails I get from guys looking for help, I see so many instances where what is happening in their relationships or dating life could be avoided by leveling up their self respect. 

I am NOT saying that all these guys are self loathing or don’t respect themselves at all.

When it comes to women though, their behavior changes because they are dealing with an attractive and high character woman.

When you have a high level of self respect, you generally have so much more confidence.

And confidence is the number one trait that raises women’s attraction in a guy.

A man who has a high level of self respect for himself is capable of anything.

Self Respect Mistakes With Dating/Relationships

One of the BIGGEST mistakes most men make, and I was like king of this when I was younger, which is why I can communicate this to you now, is trying to chase a woman or win her over.

That, almost challenge, of trying to get her validation if she shows that she isn’t interested in you. 

I was the worst, over texting, over sharing, trying to be all cute and sweet because I was told this is what women love. I was shown this is what women love. 

If it took her a long time to respond, I would double text almost trying to prompt one back.

I was, and still am, a great guy, but back then I didn't have self respect for my time. 

Another example:

If she isn’t treating you super great, or is grumpy or rude, and you are being over accommodating. 

I mean we see this on TV all the time. This is probably the biggest poor example that is thrown into our minds in shows.

Another example:

Lastly, and I talk about this often because generally when guys need coaching is because something has gone wrong with their relationship or marriage,

It’s chasing after an ex when she breaks up with you, and trying to almost plead her back into your life. This is a HUGE mistake. One I am also a veteran of doing. I've said this before, but you want humility?

One time in my early 20s, just out of college. The girl I was with, she broke up with me and I was doing anything I could to win her back, just like the movies. 

Hand wrote, 100 things I love about you.

I completely lacked self respect for my worth, and thought My sole job was to win her back and earn her respect.

Truth is, she didn’t want to be with me anymore, and when I did that trying to earn her respect/love back, it just communicated the lack of self-respect I had for my own value.

Conclusion

Self-respect, and in turn, confidence will open up so many doors in your life. Women and otherwise.

Take pride in leveling up your knowledge, your health and fitness, staying true and focused on your life purpose (school, career, business if you’re an entrepreneur). 

Build that self-respect and positive energy and you will see the different in the way women treat you, even if you’re not rich. 

If you have goals you are striving for, and will not be a pushover when it comes to being treated the way you want to be treated by women, as long as you also treat them well, you are going to have a lot of success in your dating life.