Have you have ever had the girl you’ve recently started dating all of a sudden pull away and become a bit distant, and say things like:

• I need a bit of space 
• Not sure what I want, let’s take things slow
• I’m not sure if I’m ready for anything serious

Why Is She Backing Away? 

The most probable reasons she’ll back away is because you became a little too needy, maybe a little insecure and started over pursuing her. 

It is a fact that women’s feelings develop at a slower pace than men’s do, so if you start to overpursue her and  show that excitement at a higher level than she has, it’s gonna cause her to start backing away. 

It’s an easy problem to run into because you’re caught up with dating this girl and becoming more into her and enjoying the time so naturally, you wanna speak to her more reach out to her more talk to her more and see or more but if you’re not cognizant of what that can end up doing, it can lead you into this problem where she’s backing away.

What NOT To Do If She Backs Away

First of all, When she backs away or you notice a change in her excitement level from where it was previously, this should go without saying, but DO NOT text her all aggressively and angrily because you think she is taking too long to call you back or respond to your text, or whatever story you’ve made in your head.

That is unhinged and incredibly insecure action. 

But in general, do not text her or call her or ask what’s wrong, or the common phrase we have all used “did I do something?” 

Don’t ask if it something that you did or if everything is OK. 

By doing any of the above, it gives away the signal that you are way more into her and it’s gonna push her away even more to a point where she’s gonna be so turned off and want nothing to do with you anymore. 

By acting in this undisciplined manner, you are completely devaluing yourself in her eyes and maybe the latest Netflix romcom told you you should chase her and stand outside her window with signs that tell her how much you care about her but that is dead wrong and you’re not going to have a happy ending in any sense of the phrase.

What you NEED to Do 

What you need to do is be unbothered. And by unbothered, I mean, you don’t say what’s wrong what did I do? You essentially just match her so if she Doesn’t text you back for like a day or two after you sent her a text and normally she responds pretty quick, don’t try and send her a message to solicit a response.

You need to keep your shit together emotionally and I understand you have excitement because you’re dating this girl going really well, but you need to understand how emotions work and slower and as soon as you start to act out of pocket, it’s cause her to become skittish and back away more.

Even if you think you haven’t been over pursuing, and she may become a bit more distant, and she pulls away very well that you see how you react. Women have to deal with men all the time who yeah it’s going great at first, but then she gets busy or maybe pulls away a little bit and the guy loses his mind and starts wondering what’s wrong and put on his Bob the builder toolkit and tries to fix it, that is the opposite of what you should do. I know it is challenging and counterintuitive, but it’s what works. 

Keeping calm and being unbothered, you’re gonna show good quality, masculine traits attraction, and make her feel safe.

Let her come to you are her pace.