GREAT email coaching video today for you guys which may possibly save your relationship, especially if you’re dating somebody new.

You’re going to want to stick around to make sure you don’t end up making mistakes like our guy who wrote in, where he was thinking ahead to a future with a newer girl he was dating only to be left picking up the pieces and looking for answers.

Before I jump into the email, if you ARE like the guy who wrote in and were recently dumped and going through a breakup

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Lets get into his email now. Note that anything in italics is the email, and my comments/advice will be noted below in bold. 

Email 

Hi Coach

I’m feeling really lost and need some advice. I was with this girl for about 7 months, I’m 26 she is 24. We talked about moving in together, traveling more together, and what our future could look like. She opened up to me in ways no one else had, and I thought we were building something solid.

This all sounds pretty good. 

Then, in early January, she shocked me. After a quiet night together, she told me she needed to break up. 

She said she wasn’t sure about what she wanted in life and needed time to figure it out. 

Okay, that part does not sound good. 

What I will question though, and for other guys watching you can audit what’s going on with your girlfriends (especially if it is a pretty new relationship, let’s say under 3 or 4 months) but in general your relationships to make sure you’re not making the same mistakes he is. 

When you say you talked about moving in together, traveling more together (so I presume you traveled at least once already), and what your future could look like,

You need to think, were these things that you were constantly bringing up?

There is a distinction with a HUGE difference if you were the one who was bringing up all these future plans, moving in together, and not her. 

She even told me that she wasn’t sure if she’d ever be ready for a relationship again. It was a total blow.

She is 24 years old though? So obviously those are just words. What she means is, she doesn’t see herself ready for a relationship with YOU because you were probably acting too needy and showing how much you were into her without letting her feelings get to the same point. 

For the next few weeks, we had some deep conversations. We cried, talked about everything, and even hooked up once or twice. 

But she was firm about needing space, and I didn’t respect that. 

Instead of giving her time, I kept reaching out—texting her, calling her every couple of days. She always responded. But after a while, it stopped. We didn’t talk for a while.

This is a rookie mistake here. You kept having conversations with her and saying you were crying together. She clearly told you that she wasn’t interested anymore. 

You guys hooking up would be fine if it were a friends with benefits type situation but you’re clearing trying to get her back into a relationship with you, and it isn’t going to work. 

The more you text and call and pour out these feelings at that stage where she is at, the more she is going to get pushed away and your chances get slimmer. 

In late March, I reached out again, and she told me she wasn’t sure if she could ever see us getting back together. She told me she had “moved on”.

Dude you have to STOP reaching out to her. It is not helping you at all. Moved on means she is probably seeing other guys now.

I’m still in love with her, but I’m afraid I’ve completely messed it up by not respecting her space. I’m wondering if there’s any chance left or if I should just move on.

It’s not that you messed it up by just not respecting her space, you are not respecting yourself by putting yourself into situations where you are still pouring out your feelings and crying together in an attempt to get her back.

You need to immediately move on. IF there is one thing you do, it is to stop contacting her immediately. 

Chances are pretty slim because of the way you have been acting but if you want any chance at all you need to stop contacting her. 

Get my 5 Steps guide, it is entirely free. Follow those steps right away and that will at LEAST put you in a better position to clear your own head, while simultaneously giving her space and no longer contacting her. 

That is the best shot you have to get her back but you seriously have to get yourself together and clean up your behavior man. Have some self respect.

Stop trying to plead her way back to you. 

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