When dealing with a breakup, most people think all you need is time but the truth is that is bs. 

The advice family and friends will say is just give it time. All things get better with time. You’ll be fine, just let some time go by.

In this video I am going to break down why time ISN’T the best ingredient and turn your focus on what I believe is the most important aspect to thrive after a girlfriend breaks up with you or wife leaves you. 

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Time Heals All Wounds

That is the phrase that has been repeated forever for a variety of pain points that humans go through.

I know I have been told that many times in my life when I was going through my dating decade of disaster starting in my early 20s.

The problem with this thinking is that you’re ceding all control, and more importantly, responsibility to some ether.

It becomes a hope, and you don’t know when, but at some time, maybe it’s soon, maybe it’s a long way away. You have no control and just don’t know. 

But what if it’s just something that people say to you, not because they don’t love you or care about you, but they really have no idea what else to tell you and really can’t help you?

The Concept of Healing

 Another issue with the term “time heals all wounds” when it comes to relationships is that I dislike this concept of healing.

I don’t believe you are broken if your girlfriend or wife leaves you. Now, I am not saying it’s not sad or a period of change, but you’re not injured or broken. It’s a period of change that you need to navigate. 

But even though the period of change is time, what if I told you the most important aspect you need to thrive is mindset?

Mindset

Many people dislike the concept of mindset. 

They get told to focus on mindset and get their back up thinking that it is just some voodoo or fantasy land of manifestation.

I am an avid reader. One of my favorite things to do is read books about the paths of successful people, and other non-fiction on how to grow and improve your life in many ways. There is no denying that a common theme in almost EVERY book of this nature, is the necessity to have a proper mindset.

Most importantly, an abundance mindset. This is no different when we are talking about the dating world, and even more specifically, getting over a breakup if your girlfriend has dumped you, or your wife left you.

Mindset plays an incredibly important role in being able to move forward after a breakup to limit any pain or feeling of being lost.

The reason why mindset is so important is because you are focusing on things that are within your control.

You’re in control your mindset you may not think you are, but you are you’re not in control of time times gonna go by at the same place we’re going to experience it at the same pace.

It’s how you use it which is important. And the reality is those who use their time more wisely and they’re more disciplined experience much more success, and it’s no different in the dating world or relationship world. 

What’s the great Henry Ford quote? “ whether you think you can or think you can’t you’re right”

Some guys take the advice with their friends and family and say OK it’s just gonna be time and they play victim and feel sorry for themselves curl up into a ball and just sledge through life seemingly broken because their girlfriend.

Sure, you can let time go by after break up. And eventually maybe you’ll move onto different things and find someone new but that’s not because time went by that’s because at some point you would’ve turned your attention to taking other actions.

Actions like focussing on themselves levelling up and all the areas of their life things that you should be doing as a man.

They thought they were a victim so they were right and they went through a horrible phase in their life where they felt as a victim and eventually through time and we don’t know how long that is they moved on.

so why not do all those things earlier?

Why not take those actions earlier because I know that if you do, you’re gonna be on a fantastic path to get over your break up I’m thrive.

Because most of the time is gonna be one of two scenarios, your behaviour in the relationship, cause your girlfriend or your wife to lose attraction for you enough to the point where she’s breaking up with you so how is time going to heal that?

The break up is a perfect opportunity for you to take action and correct what you did wrong and improve yourself.

And option number two is that maybe you were a good guy, but your girlfriend or your wife had issues and it wasn’t really all your fault so after the break up or divorce it’s a chance to reinvent yourself. It’s a chance to continue growing and have that abundance mindset to see what’s out there.

This is why mindset is so important and plays a much more crucial role than time.

Conclusion 

The reason why I’m so confident is not just because of all the reading I do and research that all emphasizes mindset but  because I experienced it.

When I realized mindset plays a massive role in everything, my dating and relationship life specifically changed.

I’ve said this before and it stands true, the last breakup I ever went through before I played victim was when I started to focus on what I’ve been doing wrong and trying to understand what I’ve been doing wrong and when I got to the mindset portion, 

When I realized I had always played victim, my trajectory flipped overnight and how I handled that break up I was a new person overnight once I understood what I was doing with my mindset.

So I know this is exactly what can happen for you.

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