Today’s advice is about what you should say and ask a women when you are out on your first date together in order to raise her attraction for you.

A bit of a hint, there isn’t a magic question list that will automatically make her like you more, however, there are things you want to ask and it is important how you ask and LISTEN to what she has to say which will raise her attraction for you.

What to Ask Her

So the reason I say there isn’t some magical list of questions that will just automatically get her to like you more is because that really depends on the flow of the conversation you’re having with her and what her interests are so you can’t just have a list like a robot to ask one by one and say she YES now likes me so much more cause I asked that specific question.

It’s not so much about the questions you ask it’s about how you ask them and what you DO during the conversation.

if you haven’t read Dale Carnegie’s how to win friends and influence people, which is an absolute classic and must read for your relationships, whether at work, family, or dating

Part two of it is all about how to get people to like you and really it’s all about your body language, smiling, showing actual interest in the other person being a great listener. Essentially basically learning all about the other person’s interest are and doing it with sincerity, so that’s why it doesn’t matter so much what you are asking As long as you’re learning about her and you’re actually genuinely interested and making eye contact and smiling, and showing positive body language.

You’re gonna wanna ask her all kinds of questions about her life you want to know as much as you can about her whether it’s about her whether it’s about her family whether it’s about her friends what she likes to do.

What NOT TO Ask

All of That being said, you do want to avoid talking about past relationships as much as possible, and if it does come up, don’t start ranting and raving about how bad they were or talking trash about your ex, because that may come off looking bad and you will look very negative.

Don’t start talking about what you and your first date’s future will look life together.

 The pace of women falling in love with a guy is actually slower than men, believe it or not, so it you start painting this picture of a future this early it might start to give her red flags and put you in a bad light because she could think that he is rushing to get into that stage because he doesn’t value himself as much. 

And also, don’t talk about sex or make inappropriate jokes. Save that for later on when you get a better sense of her personality and if she is laid back and receptive to it. Be smarter than doing that.

First Date Goal

Your goal of this first date is to get to know as much about her as you can and show actual genuine interest, and to be honest you should be genuinely interested if you like her, but your goal is to know as much as you can about her while as little as possible about yourself.

 That doesn’t mean that if she asks you questions to basically say I don’t wanna answer. You answer the questions genuinely but try and keep it as short as possible and turn the conversation right back onto her and ask her more questions and conversation right back on her and you do it in a positive way and the more you get used to doing this the better you’ll be. It’s all about practice. It’s communication.

 This is where most guys will lose a girl in a first date because instead of doing what I just said above there, trying to seek validation tell him all about how amazing her job is amazing houses whatever it is. And the reason we’re not doing that because we were utilizing Dale Carnegie’s strategy of getting people to like you actually showing interest in them. Dale Carnegie figured out a very important point people like to talk about themselves.

So again, this first date is where most guys think “I gotta say all the stuff about me and get this girl like me I gotta prove I’m worthy.. in such a short amount of time “ no you don’t.

 You have to generally show interest in her and And by asking all about her and letting her talk about herself, she’s gonna have a fun time with you’re showing genuine interest, and it’s doing another key thing which is going to heighten her attraction to you, because she’s having this great time with you talking all about herself and you know a few hours go by and you’re having laughs and fun. She’s gonna get home later and realize she doesn’t know that much about you which is gonna cause her to wonder about you cause she’s gonna like wow this guy give me a great time. I had so much fun. I wanna learn more about him.

It seems counterintuitive to what we think we’re supposed to do and what shown on TV but it truly does work . It gives you way better chance with a genuine girl when you’re learning about them to raise her attraction of you than it does trying to prove yourself and talk about all these superficial things.

You have to get out and practice this go on a bunch of first dates get better at asking questions about her and focussing on her. If you have tendency more to talk about yourself do the complete opposite. It will work much better.