If you hear the term “Alpha Male” when it comes to dating and get discouraged because it sounds like you have to be some aggressive hulk to get very attractive women,

stick around for the rest of this video because I am going to tell you why the terminology is just a façade and a true alpha male is something ANY guy can be if they want to.

Alpha Male Misconception

Jealous insecure controlling guys who want to fight other guys because they look at their girl is pathetic, and is not what alpha is. 

There is a huge misconception, which is also portrayed in media fed to us, that strength equals aggression. This is now where we are at with society deeming most masculine traits as toxic masculinity, and it’s absurd to be honest. 

Masculine, or alpha energy, isn’t aggression or hostility, it’s about confidence, striving for your goals, and being centered in your direction. It is also about being a leader, and in dating this is important when speaking about raising attraction in women.  

When certain areas of society criticize being alpha as toxic masculinity, it’s false. Aggression, hostility, and synonymous traits stem from insecurity and being weak, not being alpha.

So if you’re trying to become stronger, don’t think it’s time to treat ppl like shit and get into fights and that will prove your strength, it is doing the exact opposite.

Alpha Male In Dating

The alpha male in dating is the male who is confident, doesn’t get swayed emotionally to irrational reactions, intelligent and approaches problems with an efficient purposeful response to derive a solution.

They are assertive and stay true to their goals and life path without listening to negativity. All of these underlying qualities roll up into being confident, and this is extremely attractive to women.

Again, assertive does NOT mean aggression and uncontrollable actions attempting to dominate in that fashion. 

It means you are emotionally intelligent to have composure, a high emotional quotient, and confident enough to handle any situation life throws at you with the understanding of having an abundance mindset. 

You're not going to have irrational thoughts hit you out of fear. So when it comes to women and dating, you’re going to take the lead and plan dates.

You are not going to defer to her and not be confident in your choices. If she says “what do you want to eat” you’re not going to say “I will eat anything you want”.

This also means you don’t chase after women, because you are calm and confident in yourself that you don’t have to seek any validation from them. This is not in a negative way, but will have a positive impact on women’s attraction.

And look we’re all human…

We don’t know what we don’t know. When I was younger, it would be that same mentality where if a girl I was talking to or dating backed off or stop texting,

I would send that “did I do something”  or “are you okay” kind of texting to. 

It communicated big-time weakness and is very beta, and a lack of understanding of women.

Can Any Guy Be An Alpha?

I believe that someone who doesn’t naturally display alpha tendencies does not have to be stuck like that the rest of their life.

I believe this because I am an example of the change. I went through all the trials and tribulations of being that beta over-accommodating guy to the women I dated when I was younger 

To making a complete 180 by understanding the concepts of masculine and feminine energy, improving my mindset to create an abundance mindset, and bringing new found levels of confidence.

When you understand women and feminine energy, it makes being a confident guy even easier because you can implement the understanding in your interactions and dates with women and watch real time the difference in how they respond.  

It makes being indifferent to women's emotional changes for you  easier because you understand that it can be a roller coaster sometimes, and you just have to stay your course and be a rock.

Conclusion

So if a women backs away from you when dating, you don’t go chasing after her. 

If you want a better dating life, you can take the steps to becoming more alpha and confident by making those changes in your approach to life.

Nobody is going to do it for you though, so if you’re sitting around blaming women saying they always just go after jerks, then you’re completing missing the point and just looking for an excuse.

I am not being harsh on weak behavior in order to judge anybody, because I was once in this clueless category and at the end of the day we’re completely bombarded with this kind of nonsense from when we’re little kids all the way up until adults watching movies and TV showing guys just throwing themselves for validation from women.

If you start working on yourself in that aspect, becoming an “alpha” will start to feel more natural over your life as you improve your understanding of what it truly means, and when you see the difference in how women respond.