Do you feel like your wife or partner is losing respect for you, or has lost respect for you?

In this video, I’m going to show you 3 masculine shifts that reignite her respect, even if she’s already pulling away, acting cold, and you dread every conversation turning into a fight.

And when you apply these shifts I’m going to show you, she doesn’t just hear the change from your words she feels it from your actions.

Before we jump into the shifts, if your marriage is going through turmoil and you feel like you’re losing your wife, I built a free masterclass for you to learn how to make your relationship thrive again. 

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Okay Let’s look at masculine shift SHIFT number 1……….

Go From Being the Nice Guy to Grounded Leader

One of the biggest mistakes men make when she starts pulling away is becoming extra nice.  You’re trying to be the nice guy and the peacemaker, and start doing favors for her. 

This feels like the correct thing to do because when you start to get the freezer wife (as I like to call it), you rationalize that you must have been rude or acting more mean, or disagreeing with what your wife wants, or just not been treating her very well lately so this is why you are getting her being cold to you.

So in order to thaw her, you try harder to fix things by becoming mister nice guy. And we fall into the harmful “Happy Wife Happy Life” thinking that society incorrectly ingrains into our heads.

It does feel like the right thing to do  but it backfires.

Because she doesn’t feel strength in that. She feels you bending yourself around her emotions and walking on eggshells so you don’t upset her further.

And deep down, as much sense as that makes to us, it truly doesn’t make her feel safe.

What really happens is that internally, she feels like she cannot trust that there is a strong masculine core in you and she can’t trust you to lead.

I know what it feels like to have the woman you love slowly lose respect for you. 

For years I was the perennial nice guy, and the people-pleaser in my relationships, and when my ex-fiancé was becoming distant from me and started acting colder towards me, I thought a luxury trip to Mexico would spice things up again and we could have fun and it would generate that spark in her for me and make things better. 

My rationalization was, this will show her how much I loved her. But literally a day or 2 after we got back, she left me. It was horrible, it brought panic to my life. 

Let me know in the comments things you’ve tried to make your marriage or relationship better if you are currently going through rough times, and what your wife or partner's response has been to you and those things you’ve tried. 

So to recap, the first shift is Stop being the nice guy and Start being the grounded leader.

And a grounded leader isn’t controlling or arrogant. 

Not being a nice guy doesn’t mean you’re rude or not caring, but it means you’re steady, clear and don’t collapse every time she’s upset.

And the fact of the matter is:  Nice guys don’t get respect. Leaders do.

That brings us to SHIFT number 2:

Go From Needing Her Reassurance to Living with Purpose 

This second shift is about where you get your security from.

Most men don’t realize how often they seek emotional reassurance from their wife, not just with words but with their energy and the way they present themselves.

We ask questions to her that sound like:
‘Are you okay?’
‘Did I do something wrong?’
‘Do you still love me?’
‘What can I do to fix this?’

If I had a dollar for every time I used to seek reassurance from my partners during my over decade of failed relationships by asking either “Are you okay?” or “Did I do something wrong” whenever I sensed them becoming a bit distant, I would be giving Jeff Bezos a run on the list of top net worth. 

But when we ask those questions to our wife or partner, they all signal the exact same thing to her nervous system:

It says to her: ‘I need you to regulate me.’

 And that decimates attraction. 

A man she can respect doesn’t orbit around her moods. He has his own mission, his own backbone, his own life that he’s building, with or without her approval.

That doesn’t mean ignoring her or being selfish but it does mean you stop needing her validation to feel like a man, or that your being okay is dependent on her state.

So here’s the shift: Reclaim your purpose.

Because the man she can respect isn’t waiting for her to hand him permission slips to get signed by her.

Counterintuitively, that is when she starts building that respect back.

Finally, masculine SHIFT number 3:

GO From Explaining Yourself to Living Your Standards

The final shift might be the most powerful.

When a woman is losing respect and attraction for you, the conversations start to feel like mini battles every single time.

You often notice she seems to be taking everything you say the wrong way, and the fights then start to get progressively worse because most men go into explanation mode during these conversations or arguments.

We start to get frustrated and say:

 ‘That’s not what I meant.’
‘You’re misunderstanding me.’
‘If you’d just listen, you’d see what I’m trying to say.’

But respect is built through alignment, not through convincing.

She doesn’t trust what you say. She trusts what you consistently show up as.

So stop trying to explain yourself into getting her respect and causing more fights.
 

Ask yourself:

 What values do I refuse to compromise?

If you don’t want to argue or fight, start living by your standards and learn how to set proper boundaries. Don’t bait yourself intro trying to explain.

When you live that truth consistently, she notices. Her body notices and her nervous system notices.

Respect doesn’t return overnight. But when you show her strength through consistency, not words or trying to explain your rationale to her feelings, she begins to feel something shift and that respect for you starts to grow again internally as her nervous system reacts to those standards you set.

CONCLUSION

So let’s wrap this up.

These 3 masculine shifts aren’t about using tactics or “gotcha’s”. They help to recalibrate you to run on a new operating system.

What you have to understand is, if she doesn’t respect you, she can’t connect with you.

And you as a man, you cannot demand respect from her or force her to respect you in any way. 

These shifts help you to become the man her nervous system can trust again.

Remember, you don’t need her permission to become the man she can respect again.

So if you are rapidly losing your wife’s respect and feel like you are close to losing your marriage, and you’re ready to stop guessing what works and truly rebuild her respect and attraction, I put together a free masterclass where I break down the exact step-by-step roadmap you need that will lead your marriage back to a thriving state. 

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I’ll see you in the next episode.